Monday, March 23, 2009

e-mail response

(E-mail that I received today)

“We didn't get much of a chance to talk at the party, but I have been thinking of you lots and hope things are going well for you and that you've been feeling good too.

(How I wanted to respond, however I just deleted it with not response instead)

Dear A.,
I was fine with us not getting much time to talk at our party, because you were too hard to look at in your ever growing belly filled with twins. As if your belly wasn’t calling enough attention, you also wore a bright green shirt with the words “A wee bit of Irish in me” with a giant arrow pointing at your belly printed on it.

And while you are asking, things are not going well for me and I am not feeling good. You tell me that you know what we are going through but yet you decline to share any of your journey with us. You tell me that things will work out for us they way they did for you, but I have know idea what things happened to be able to work out for you.

I respect the fact that you want to focus ahead on the positive things happening in your life with the upcoming birth of your twins, but you have to remember that we are back here still in the sadness you say you once experienced but refuse to tell me about.

So sorry that I didn’t want to sit on the couch with you all night at the party at our house and hear about your babies and feel them kick.

I was much more content to be celebrating St. Patrick’s day at our bar drinking Guinness.

Aren’t you glad you ask?

(Any suggestions ICLWers have on how you handle these e-mails from friends I would love them, obviously this response e-mail would not be appropriate)


  1. I would have wanted to write the same exact thing that you did. It seems that people tend to forget where they came from once they get to their destination and I truly think that's sad.

    I probably would have emailed her back and said, "Oh well. Maybe next time." and just left it at that. If she's not willing to share her journey with you - why should you our your heart out to her?


  2. I wish I had a fabulous suggestion for you... I'm still working on biting my tongue every time someone tells me to 'just relax and it will happen'. I'm afraid I likely wouldn't have been as strong as you and would have sent an inappropriate response.


  3. I would have sent it. Okay, not really, but I would have wanted to!

    I probably would have done what you did -- ignored it and drowned my sorrows with my hubby.


  4. I would have done the same as you. Ignore it, but create my own private long response to vent.